As many of you now know, I am a proud Aunt of a beautiful baby boy named Wesley Ocean Wight. My sister has become a beacon of potential parenting skills for when (or if ) I decide to have children with my love. However, when my nephew was having a casual lunch in public during a stroll thru a shoe store at The Americana, while my sister held him without a blanket cover; I realized that it I was completely oblivious to the idea of breastfeeding in public...until it now. It wasn’t the first time I had seen someone breastfeed, but it was the first time I saw someone who is a family member of mine do it; and in public. My first thought was “Do you need to cover him?” followed by the typical “Is anyone watching? Should I protect you guys? Cover Wesley? Are people uncomfortable? What do I do?” Although these questions seem rational from a majority of societies perspective, they are absolutely ridiculous. My nephew like many other growing children is a healthy high needs baby; whom needs his milk supply “tap on demand”. My sister of course understands this and continues to breastfeed, and plans to continue until he is over it. Studies have proven (as have the results of my nephews advanced mental and physical growth as shown at the doctor office) that breastfeeding is a vital and important process of human growth. The connection made between the child and mother is very strong with breastfeeding, and the nutrients as well as antibodies are even STRONGER than anything a chemical based baby formula can ever provide. Bottom logical line is NATURAL BREAST MILK/ FEEDING should be your FIRST and MAIN choice if you can.
With all this information we go back to the fact that mainly in America, but also in some other countries (not all) a woman who breastfeeds has been made to either hide in the shadows, or under a blanket, or to feel ashamed for having to feed her child in public. All these feelings aren’t just unfair but also unhealthy. The stress that this can put on some mothers can actually create a negative effect on the milk produced, which in return can affect the child consuming this milk. Why do we feel the need to shame mothers for breastfeeding in public? In reality, the only people that should feel ashamed are those of us who feel uncomfortable. Have we completely lost our sense of biological normality that we turn something so beautiful, healthy, & natural like breastfeeding; into a perverted, shaming, sexualized situation? How horrible of society to do that. Mothers shouldn’t be the ones in question here; we should be…as a society. We over sexual EVERYTHING, that we have created no boundaries for what is innocent to what is deemed as perverted or wrong. Society, YOU need to check yourself as soon as possible. I remember when I turned into a teen.My hormones were raging and I started to think boys were cute. This in return made me feel uncomforable the moment my father innocently would try to hold my hand at the mall or grocery store. I pushed him away thinking “what will people think” which was ridiculous because he only saw me as his little princess who was still a child who he wanted to protect.However, society as well as tv programming had made me think it was wrong for an older man to hold hands with a girl. BUT WOW was I wrong. I was his youngets daughter who in his eyes hadn't yet grown up,and in my mind I wasn't a kid anymore. Again, this was all in my mind. Just like making breastfeeding something uncomfortable is in the observers mind, and NOT the reality of the situation.
What’s next? Will we be forcing people to hide their toes, and only wear closed shoes because SOMEONE might get aroused or deem this sexual because they have a foot fetish? Or will we no longer be allowed to eat ice cream, lollipops, and bananas in public because some pervert might get aroused at the fact that he or she is thinking it's sexual. Absolutely NOT, you say? Because clearly that would be ridiculous. Well, shaming mothers for breastfeeding in public is even MORE ridiculous. I say if they want to feed, let them. It is healthy AND natural. Some heavier set men have bigger breast and nipples anyway than most women. If a breast in public, esp. one that is feeding an innocent child, is making you uncomfortable …then perhaps YOU’RE the one with the dirty mind. You need to really rethink your thoughts, and please avoid Europe because being topless is so normal there and not as sexualized as it is here, that you would probably faint the second you walk out of the airport. Just saying. As a society lets change these outdated ridiculous mental programs. Next time you see a mother breastfeeding; don’t give her a look of disdain. Instead be respectful. It’s not a mothers job to make your dirty mine feel comfortable. It is her job to provide for her baby, and it is your job as a human and a caring Love Warrior to respect that. ThisBlondeBrunette salutes all the Breastfeeding mothers out there! I hope to join you one day, but until then let’s make this world a more Breastfeeding acceptable place!